critisize me!

I’ve wanted to update my blog
for quite awhile now (after all, it is a new year) but my mind has been blank because of the unexciting life
I live. Yeaup, as hard as it is for me to admit, I do live a terribly boring
life. Not exactly my idea of spending the 21^st year of my life. I
think the boring-ness of my life has rubbed off against my personality.
Nowadays, during my free time, I actually enjoy sitting down, listening to old
French music and writing (which is hardly ever because of the lack of
inspiration) or reading articles online. For those of ya’ll who don’t really
know me, this is not the usual things I do on a daily basis. Then again, the
year is still young and I’m sure there is drama just waiting to knock on my
door.

Anyway, back to the real
reason why I’m updating my blog… reunion dinners… yes people, no matter how un-Chinese
I may look or act, I do celebrate Chinese New Year… it’s a classic yearly event
with loads of drama and family politics. It’s quite funny from an outsiders
point of view but when you’re part of it… you’ll realize how fucked up some of your
family members really are. Hahaha.

Let’s start with the
preparation of the reunion dinner. This year we had the reunion dinner at my
eldest uncle’s house. Just preparing the food it self is a whole event by
itself… with everyone getting on each others nerves and the adults nagging the
kids to help out but at the same time they’re telling you, “Get out of the way
lar!” “Don’t hang around in the kitchen!!” It just shows you how confused
adults really are. Then when you pretend to go in the kitchen to take
something, you’ll understand why they asked you to stay away from the kitchen…
because the women inside are gossiping about “things that kids are not suppose
to know”… watching this scenario makes me wonder if I’ll end up like that in 15
years time… hmmm… scary!

When the food is all finally
prepared…
On the right corner, you have
a fussy aunty, making sure everything’s perfect and taking her own sweet time
getting dressed up just to come down for dinner and on the left corner, it’s
your father who is waiting to get his hands into the food and he’s getting all
cranky just by waiting… it’s like a boxing match waiting to happen, and I’m
the person at the side with a towel and a bottle of water… I can’t remember how
many times I had to tell my dad to chill out…

So then the dinner begins…
somehow when the dinner starts… everything is forgotten and everyone is
civilized again.
Every Chinese New Year
reunion dinner starts of with this horrible horrible dish called Yee Sang
(forgive me if it’s not the right spelling). For those of ya’ll who has never
eaten Yee Sang before… you lucky buggers! For those of ya’ll who actually like
eating Yee Sang… I have to say… what the hell is wrong with you guys wey!!! Ok.
Basically, Yee Sang is a plate that contains… the fruit, pomelo, grated
carrots and turnip, pickled ginger and onion or radish if I’m not mistaken, and
some yucky green stuff which I have no clue as to what it is… then they top it
with some kind of keropok and raw salmon… the dressing… is some sweet sauce
which only makes the whole thing even worst! Then, everyone’s suppose to toss
it real high with their chopsticks and make a wish for the New Year. The worst
part is eating it of course… and everyone is supposed to eat it… if not… “You
won’t have a prosperous New Year!!” (Saying it in the most aunty voice I can
think of).

I guess this year won’t be
such a good year for me then since I managed to escape from eating it (the
first time ever, btw!)…

*to be continued…

I am constantly reminded about the
passing of time when a major change in my life occurs. This time, it is one of
my closest friend moving miles away.

It’s so weird how it feels like
just a week ago, the whole gang, was sitting down at our “favorite” place after
class, Ali Maju, with aunty Rahel, sipping on her ‘Nestlo panas’, Mann telling
us some about some funny story that happened to her, Adrian making funny
impression of Austin Powers, Alin making smoking look so cool when she does it,
Ibkaar creating some lame joke (which we all for some reason will laugh at),
Yinn talking to us about tennis, Faizal brooding and making some snide comments…
hehehe. Those were the days huh? (I feel so old saying that!)

My A-level years were one of the
best years in my life. No drama… The whole group of us was just like one big
happy family. I treasure those years so much and most importantly, I treasure
the friendships that I have made throughout those years.

I am honestly so glad to have met
each and every one of you. Those memories are like photographs imprinted in my
mind forever. Now that every one of us has chosen our own path in life, I just
want to wish you guys/girls all the best! I know I will be seeing ya’ll around
but I do hope that in the future, no matter where destiny brings us that we
will be able to go back to our favorite place again to sit and have
a drink, like as if we never changed, and time never passed.

I wonder sometimes what goes on in the brains of the less intelligent
kind… men…
I think men or should i say boys should think before actually trying to
pick up a girl. This aint about dissing the men kind. Don’t get me wrong…
I love men!! I just want them to learn something from my blog and maybe then men-kind can be saved.

First things first… when hitting on a girl… be smooth. NOT corny… smoooooth… yes, there is a difference! any independent, intelligent, beautiful, gorgeous, woman wouldn’t fall for those corny pick up lines unless of course she has different intentions or you’re hella’ good lookin! Be funny… making her laugh (pity-laugh
does not count!) is very important. But most importantly, be casual! Thats what
makes you smooooth…

NEVER EVER talk bout yourself the whole time you’re on a date…
*yawnz… no one cares about you reaching the top of mount everest, how many celebrities you’ve dated, who’s your uncle/aunty… she wants to know if you actually are into her so ask her questions about her then you can slit in a thing or two about yourself… but remember never steal her limelight… make sure the focus is kept on her. Listen to her carefully and when she asks you about yourself… don’t say, “there’s nothing to tell”. You make youself sound like a loser! Don’t start getting excited and exaggerating your life stories either… remember, focus is kept on her!
And please… maintain eye contact but don’t stare!

Don’t come on to her too strong… You will only push her away. Just
because you’ve known her for two weeks… doesn’t mean you have to propose to
her. It might just scare her away. Take it slow… When you guys are
actually together then it’s a totally different thing. But we are talking about
the early stages here… Don’t propose to her, say you want to have
babies/a family together, all those kind of stuff… Scary!!

Be a GENTLEMAN… (I wonder if this species still exist… *sigh) honestly!! Get the door for her… pull out her seat… getting the bill is not the only thing that will say you’re a gentleman. All the little gestures say much more!

Be sweet and compliment her… don’t go overboard! “That dress looks great on you”, is good enough. And yes… there is a difference between “that dress looks great on you” and “you look great in that dress”. Be tasteful… Don’t compliment her on her boobs or butt… none of that sort! We know we’re hot… you can tell us more about that when we’re officially together…
No dirty talk… Not unless you guys are together!! Don’t freak her out by making her think you’re a pervert.

And lastly, DO NOT check other girls out while you’re out on a date with her!!! You think she doesn’t notice your head turning or even your eyes drifting?? Puh leeease…

Don’t think we’re naïve and that we actually believe all your sweet talk. We women are smarter than you think and we deserve more respect than we get.
Im not saying all guys are like this. Im just speaking from my experience.
And guys, don’t get offended. Take it as a little tip from a girl.

If i did offend anyone in the process, im real sorry… But hey, Im just bloggin’!

gosh… im gonna be turning twenty soon and im having flash backs of what i’ve done in my life so far… nowadays i see everyone going somewhere… doing something… and i feel left behind…
i cant really say that i have achieved much (cept my alevels results *wink). i somehow feel that i’ve been living a very meaningless life… with many uneventful days passing by. clubbing, sleeping, working, eating… and the cycle goes on… you know people say how u go through your teenage years being confused… well, im at that point now. its either im a late bloomer or im going through “mid-life” crisis early. i wonder if its just me over analyzing or if other people have the same thoughts running through their minds. do we all go through life living like droids, waking up each morning doing the same thing over and over again? maybe its me… not seizing the day.. grabbing the bull by its horns… i guess its time i do some thing bout it, dont u think??
but where should i start….

I am about to finish my third Dan Brown book. Those of u who have not read at least one… its a sin!! hehehe. Dan Brown is a genius. I love the way he fuses romance, facts and fiction all in one book. He keeps u on your toes in suspence… trying to figure out the puzzles and the riddles in the book… He makes u think instead of just accepting what is real and he portrays the good and the bad in people, perfectly… how people can be driven by love or the need for power. Its amazing how he does it again and again.

Seriously u guys… go read one now!!

Yes, most of you guys would know that i have always wanted to be a physiotherapist. Its something that i have planned to do for quite awhile. But now, i have decided to do psychology because i’ve just had to much trouble with getting there. Im just wondering now if this is the right choice… hmm… will i be a good psychologist? would YOU come to me for advice or comfort when you’re having a problem? *sigh. i really hope this life changing decision that i make will be the right one…